You Shouldn’t Feel Bad About Spending Money — Here’s How To Avoid the Guilt
You’ve worked hard for your money — so you should enjoy it. In today’s “Financially Savvy Female” column, we’re chatting with Dani Pascarella, CFP, co-founder of the financial wellness platform OneEleven, about how you can avoid feeling guilty when spending money.
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Do a Spending Evaluation
“Start by understanding how previous purchases make you feel and why,” Pascarella said. “This is key to building your financial foundation.”
For her clients who struggle with budgeting, Pascarella recommends that they review everything they spend money on over the course of a week and rate how happy each purchase makes them.
“The goal here is to identify the types of purchases that cause guilt, unhappiness or any other negative feelings, and then understand why,” she said. “Once you have this knowledge, it’s much easier to eliminate these types of purchases and focus on spending your dollars in an intentional way that makes you happy.”
Plan Future Purchases and Avoid Random Spending
“When you plan to buy something and then do, it feels different than when you make an impulse purchase,” Pascarella said.
Impulse purchases often cause guilt because you may be buying something that doesn’t align with your values.
“The reason why impulse spending is so dangerous is that we buy before we ask ourselves, ‘How does this relate to the person I want to be?'” Pascarella said. “So what should you do? Know your triggers. People tend to impulse spend in certain situations and on certain things. When we take a deep dive into a client’s impulse spending, we typically notice strong behavioral patterns (example — a stressful day at work [leads to] online shopping).”
Pascarella recommends replacing your responses to known triggers with healthier habits that are better for you long term.
“After a stressful day at work, decompress with a workout or light a candle and put on some music,” she said. “Find other enjoyable ways to address those triggers that don’t result in guilt and also benefit your financial situation.”
Focus On Value-Based Spending
“Every dollar you spend should bring you closer to the person you want to be,” Pascarella said. “Value-based spending is when you’re spending on the things that are most important to you. To put that in practice, the first step is to understand what your values are. Once you know what’s important to you, think of the dollars you earn as votes towards that specific value. Use the dollars you earn to support your values.”
As Pascarella notes, spending $100 on something will have different effects on different people.
“Two people can spend $100 on the exact same thing, but they’ll each feel differently about the purchase depending on their values,” she said.
Set Attainable Goals
“Redefine your expectations and set goals that feel attainable and inspire you so that your goals don’t discourage you,” Pascarella said.
To ensure you meet these goals, always pay yourself first.
“Your goals are the things that you believe are more important than anything else, and therefore they should come before any discretionary spending,” Pascarella said.
However, once you’ve met these goals or hit your monthly target toward meeting these goals, feel free to spend any discretionary funds — guilt-free.
Build Healthy Spending Habits
Spending in a healthy way involves being in control of every dollar and where it goes.
“Be the CEO of your own life and become empowered by controlling your money instead of letting it control you,” Pascarella said.
If you want to ensure you don’t overspend on discretionary purchases, come up with a “choice spending number” and stick to it.
“At OneEleven, we give each client a ‘choice spending number’ — the amount of money they can safely spend on discretionary items on a monthly, weekly and daily basis,” Pascarella said. “When you budget for your goals and know your choice spending number, it makes it much easier to avoid overspending. It also gives you a lot of freedom.”
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