6 ‘Quiet’ Networking Secrets Every Wealthy Person Uses
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Cindy Lamothe
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Many wealthy people have a secret weapon in their arsenal — “quiet networking.” When it comes to building wealth, it’s not just about what you know, but who you know — and more importantly, how you connect with them.
But here’s the thing: The wealthiest people don’t necessarily rely on loud, flashy networking events or shameless self-promotion. Many have a set of quiet, behind-the-scenes strategies that help them build powerful relationships without all the noise.
“I’ve noticed the most successful people network completely differently than everyone else,” said Andrew Lokenauth, money expert and owner of Fluent in Finance.
Below are some of the understated networking tricks that have helped the rich and successful get ahead.
They Don’t Directly Ask for Things
“One thing I learned from my ultra-wealthy clients is they never directly ask for anything,” Lokenauth said. “They give first, then wait.”
Last October, he watched one of his clients send a relevant article to a CEO he wanted to connect with, along with some insights. “No ask, no meeting request,” Lokenauth said. Two weeks later, that CEO reached out to his client.
“The strategy works because it shows you’re thoughtful and not just taking,” he explained.
They Network Down, Not Up
“Here’s something that surprised me when I first started — wealthy people often network down, not up,” Lokenauth explained.
He said that while others desperately try to reach CEOs, his successful clients build relationships with up-and-coming talent.
“I’ve done this myself by mentoring young entrepreneurs. Several of them have gone on to build $10 million-plus companies, and now I’m part of their inner circle,” he said.
They Use the ‘Passive Presence’ Strategy
Wealthy people also use what Lokenauth called the “passive presence” strategy.
Instead of trying to be everywhere, they pick one to two exclusive spaces and show up consistently.
“There’s this members-only club downtown where I see the same wealthy faces every week. They’re not actively networking — they’re just there, being seen, having casual conversations,” Lokenauth explained.
He said this is way more natural than forced networking events.
They Leverage Their Existing Network’s Network
And here’s something most people miss, according to Lokenauth: Wealthy individuals leverage their existing network’s network. Rather than cold outreach, they get warm introductions through second or third connections.
He’s closed some of his biggest deals this way. “The key is to never directly ask for the intro. Instead, I mention specific ways I might help their contact, and they usually offer to connect us,” Lokenauth said.
They’re Masters of the Long Game
While most people want immediate results, wealthy networkers plant seeds that might take months or years to grow.
“I sent holiday gifts to key contacts for three years straight before some of them turned into meaningful relationships,” Lokenauth said.
He noted that the consistency showed he was in it for the real connection, not just a quick win.
They Create Micro-Exclusive Experiences
Here’s a subtle but powerful move: Wealthy folks create micro-exclusive experiences. Instead of attending events, they host small, intimate gatherings.
Lokenauth started doing monthly dinner parties with six to eight people from different industries. He explained that the connections made over wine and good food are 100 times stronger than any conference conversation.
“Listen, the wealthy know something most don’t: real networking isn’t about collecting contacts — it’s about building genuine relationships with a small, select group,” he said.
He added that the best part is these strategies actually take less time and energy than traditional networking. “You’re just being more strategic about where you spend that energy,” Lokenauth explained.
Building Real Wealth Through Real Relationships
The thing is, most of these approaches seem counterintuitive at first, Lokenauth said. “They’re slower, more subtle and often invisible to outsiders. But that’s exactly why they work so well,” he explained.
While everyone else is fighting for attention at networking events, he said the wealthy are quietly building valuable relationships that last for decades.
“I’ve personally used these strategies to build a network that’s opened doors I never thought possible. The key is patience and authenticity — you can’t fake this stuff,” Lokenauth said.
His best advice? Focus on giving value, playing the long game and being genuinely interested in others. “That’s how real wealth gets built — through real relationships,” he said.
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